Since the beginning of mankind, human beings are in the pursuit of happiness. Let’s say who doesn’t want to be happy? People are constantly running after happiness in one way or the other and since what actually causes happiness remains a mystery, people try to increase happiness in their life in different ways. Some of them get successful in their pursuit while others, being misled or unwitting in this pursuit, end up making their lives more frustrating and miserable in the long run.
In the history of humanity, we find varying views about how to increase happiness in one’s life. Spiritualists regarded happiness as a result of the strengthening of human soul. Philosophers suggested the quest for happiness to be in one’s surroundings and dealings. In contrast to that, scientists proposed that happiness was just a game of brain chemicals (neurotransmitters) and hormones. All of these propositions might be well-said in their places but here, in this article, we would like to throw light on some simple ways how a normal person in his/her mundane life could possibly stay happy.
Table of Contents
- 1 Realize that enduring happiness doesn’t come from success
- 2 Take control of your time
- 3 Act happy
- 4 Seek work and leisure that engages your skills
- 5 Join the “movement” movement
- 6 Give your body the sleep it wants
- 7 Give priority to close relationships
- 8 Focus beyond the self
- 9 Keep a gratitude journal
- 10 Nurture your spiritual self
Realize that enduring happiness doesn’t come from success
People adapt to changing circumstances-even to wealth or a disability. Thus wealth is like health. Its utter absence breeds misery, but having it (or any circumstance we long for) doesn’t guarantee happiness.
Take control of your time
Happy people feel in control of their lives, often aided by mastering their use of time. It helps to set goals and break them into daily aims. Although we often overestimate how much we will accomplish in any given day (leaving us frustrated), we generally underestimate how much we can accomplish in a year, given just a little progress every day.
We can sometimes act ourselves into a frame of mind. Manipulated into a smiling expression, people feel better; when they scowl, the whole world seems to scowl back. So put on a happy face. Talk as if you feel positive self-esteem, are optimistic, and are outgoing. Going through the motions can trigger the emotions.
Seek work and leisure that engages your skills
Happy people often are in a zone called “flow”-absorbed in a task that challenges them without overwhelming them. The most expensive forms of leisure (sitting on a yacht) often provide less flow experience than gardening, socializing, or craft work.
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Join the “movement” movement
An avalanche of research reveals that aerobic exercise not only promotes health and energy, it also is an antidote for mild depression and anxiety. Sound minds reside in sound bodies. Off your duffs, couch potatoes.
Give your body the sleep it wants
Happy people live active vigorous lives yet reserve time for renewing sleep and solitude. Many people suffer from a sleep debt, with resulting fatigue, diminished alertness, and gloomy moods.
Give priority to close relationships
Intimate friendships with those who care deeply about you can help you weather difficult times. Confiding is good for soul and body. Resolve to nurture your closest relationships. Decide to not take those closest to you for granted. Display to them the sort of kindness that you display to others. Try to affirm them, to play together and share together. To rejuvenate your affections, resolve in such ways to act lovingly.
Focus beyond the self
Reach out to those in need. Happiness increases helpfulness (those who feel good do good). But doing good also makes one feel good.
Keep a gratitude journal
Those who pause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom, education, senses, natural surroundings, and so on) experience heightened well-being.
Nurture your spiritual self
For many people, faith provides a support community, a reason to focus beyond self, and a sense of purpose and hope. Study after study finds that actively religious people are happier and that they cope better with crises.
Source: The Pursuit of Happiness by David G. Myers.
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